Youth, especially in women, is touted as essential to success. We have this ridiculous idea of “past our prime” after we reach a certain age, as if our accomplishments have a “best before” date. But, I came across this interesting article on success after your 20s and it made me think…
When I was younger, probably about 23 to 27 (I’m 28 hah!), I felt an overwhelming dread that time was withering away. After graduating university, I had a hard time getting a job in my field, a heartbreaking case of writers’ block, and an inclination to Netflix binges. This led to anxiety for my future. I’d always been the type who impressed teachers with my wit and intelligence, but I couldn’t manage to extend that charm to the workforce, not to mention other areas of my life, like the romantic battlefield. I had all this time for creative endeavours, but my fear crippled me. Rejection crippled me. I wanted to be independent, successful, and famous.
At 24, I moved back in with my parents.
I now realize the importance of this growth period. In my early twenties, I had so much to learn, and still do. The quote below sums up my recent realization.
I am grateful I wasn’t given this opportunity at 25 as I believe my good intentions and passion could very well have done a lot of damage.
Christine Garde, Founder and CEO of CouldYou?
Here’s what I mean, for example.
I’ve been writing one short story for the past six years. I’ve submitted it to at least five literary journals thinking it was G.E.N.I.U.S. It was rejected every time. This story is my pet project as of late and I am ecstatic at how much it’s morphed into a whole new monster. Back to Christine’s quote above, if this story had been published back when I was a wee 22, it could have never reached its potential. AND could have been damaging (obviously not to the same extent as her work, but still). I now understand the importance of giving the attention my story deserves without impatience for publication. Knowing how much this story has matured makes me careful to ensure I spend the needed time to craft every detail with intention.
Ahhh, it makes me so excited!
Anywho, my point is that I (*we) have our whole lives to accomplish our goals. If we rush through life, checking off our bucket list we may not be living up to our full potential and may forget to enjoy the journey. Goals are great, I have many, but I’m also busy with my life–creative writing, spin classes, dance, dating, dinners, laughs and laughs and laughs. It’s these experiences that I feel will lead to my a-hah moment, my I-can’t-believe-this-is-it project. Are you stoked? I am!
What do you think? Could your THANG be that much better later in life? Is there really that much urgency to your “success?” Leave a comment and let me know.